It’s been a tough week for me. I crashed my car and the insurance company have been fucking morons to say the least. I’ve felt frustrated about being in pain, taking time off work and having no transport meaning I have been away from my own home comforts. I’ve realised how independent I am and I’ve felt trapped. I’m usually a very positive person however this week I’ve been quiet due to knowing I had to take some time out to look after myself.
It’s sad to think that it took me crashing my car into a house to realise how precious life is. I remember looking down at my legs to ensure they were still there. I’m lucky. I’m important. We are always in such a rush, putting our jobs first, trying to get that paperwork done in time, trying to please others that our own self care and love slips through the net. Not sure what it looks like to love yourself? Here is what I’ve learned.
- Set boundaries. Stop being a people pleaser. Say no to things you really don’t want to do or have time for. I used to be afraid of saying no in the fear of missing out on something or letting someone down but doing it avoids feeling burnt out. It opens up opportunities for bigger and better things that are good for the mind, body and soul. So never feel bad about doing it.
- Give your body the nurturing rest, exercise and comfort it needs. Its all about balance. One day a long walk or run might feed your soul, another day hibernating under the covers and watching a whole series on netflix might fulfil you. As long as you’re happy and you balance things it’s ok.
- Learn to forgive yourself. As humans we are our own worst critics. We’re not built to be perfect. We make mistakes. Use each opportunity, good or bad, to grow. Sometimes we just need to stop and remind ourselves that we are human. Practice mindfulness and be gentle with yourself.
- Have family and friend time. Surround yourself with positive people that make you forget your phone exists when you’re with them. They’re the best kind of people. Talk about how you feel. A problem shared is a problem halved.
- Pets are always good too! Animals are therapeutic. One thing that puts me in a good mood is seeing my smiley dog no matter the situation. (She does smile, honest).
- Take some time out and jot your thoughts down. Why do you think I’m writing right now? It’s been scientifically proven that putting pen to paper reduces anxiety. It also gives time to self reflect. Your brain is like a hard drive. When you note down your ideas, thoughts and emotions, it helps your brain to unload some baggage, giving it room to think about other things.
- Stop wasting time on the internet. It leads to comparing yourself to others which is a complete no no when you’re already feeling shit. I’ve found avoiding Instagram this week has done me the world of good. I don’t want to be looking at Louisa Johnsons perfect bod thank you. Comparison is the theif of joy!
- Declutter. Some researchers believe that clutter can stress us out and bring us down. On the flip side, sorting through unorganized papers, clothes, or whatever else is crowding our lives may help us be more productive, cheerful and calmer. I like to call it life admin.
- Pamper yourself. Soak in a hot bath, get a new hair cut or manicure. Trying a new face mask or skin care is my favourite thing to do at the minute. I’ve actually separated two make up bags from day to night time and I’ll sit on my bed at night for 20 minutes deciding what products to use. It’s relaxing and it’s one of my favourite parts of the day. Don’t shy away from spending time and/or money on yourself. You deserve it.
- Remember that self care is not selfish. Take care of yourself – you are of no use to others if you are not caring for yourself first and foremost. Self care can be practiced through things like exercising, meditating, getting enough sleep, diet etc. Devote some time each day to yourself.
Thanks for reading x